Everyone knows someone who sports a striking shade of sterling—to say nothing of Diane Keaton, Emmylou Harris, and the rest of the silver all-stars. And these gorgeous women don’t lack for sex appeal (71% of respondents in a Prevention poll say women with gray hair can be sexy, whereas 78% say the same for men). But even though many of us admire gray hair on others, we’re often averse to trying out the look ourselves, according to a recent study in Ageing & Society.
Many experts are wondering why women can do so much to keep their faces and bodies looking young. There’s no need to think gray hair will necessarily make you look older. And everyone can pull off the look. Women often tell me why they think gray hair won’t work with their eye color or skin tone. But the fact is, for every one of those preconceived notions, there’s an example to the contrary of someone who looks fabulous gray.
Change of Hair
he process of going gray—which occurs as follicles stop producing melanin—is determined by DNA, not diet or other factors. Although research on mice shows exercise may stave off the loss of hair pigment, while stress may speed up the process, these findings haven’t been replicated in humans. So even though it seems as if every president goes gray after a few months in office, there’s no proof (yet) that stress is the cause. Even the seemingly accelerated speed at which certain sections go gray (temples first for some, the crown area for others) and the exact shade of gray you get (white, charcoal, or any of the other variations) are genetically predetermined. Your head has roughly 100,000 hair follicles, and each functions autonomously. If one runs out of melanin, even if you pluck the resulting gray hair, there will be no impact on surrounding follicles—nor is your lifestyle likely to affect the color.
Styling your gray hair
Transition to all gray. If you dye your hair, the transition to gray can be awkward. To make it smoother, ask a pro for guidance. She may suggest coloring your gray roots as they grow in with a demi-permanent dye, an ammonia-free color that covers up to 75% of gray. Once you’re ready for the reveal, you just let the dye wash out (it can take up to 28 shampoos).
Polish your silver. Gray strands are usually drier than pigmented hairs, so they have a tendency to frizz and can easily look dull if you’re not vigilant about upkeep. Try these tricks for a smooth, chic look—and perennial shine:
Blue shampoo. Use blue-hued shampoos and conditioners only once or twice a month to prevent your hair from taking on a violet cast.
Stay sharp. Get a modern cut with clean edges. Ask your stylist not to use a razor, because it can cause the ends to fray, making your whole style seem untidy. Whatever cut you choose, be sure that you get a trim every 6 to 8 weeks. “Gray hair can start to look unruly if it’s not trimmed frequently enough.
Protect your assets. Environmental pollutants and UV light can make any hair color—including barely pigmented grays—look dull. So wash at least every other day (to prevent buildup) with a hydrating shampoo and conditioner containing antioxidants, which help protect against UV and environmental damage.
Get toned. Even with the right products, gray hair can take on a yellowish cast, so lather with a silver-specific shampoo once or twice a month. The classic product many stylists favor is Clairol Professional Shimmer Lights Shampoo, which has a violet toner to counteract any yellow.
Lighten up. Skip heavy pomades, waxes, and oily serums. They can coat gray hair and make it look dusty. To combat frizz, try One ‘N Only Shiny Silver Ultra Shine Spray, a shine spray without drying alcohol.
Accent your hair with the right clothes and makeup and watch the compliments roll in. When you see a really attractive gray-haired woman, she’s often wearing charcoal and silver clothing, which makes her gray hair even more striking. You don’t need to restrict your wardrobe to that color family, but black, white, shades of gray, and jewel tones (ruby red, sapphire blue, and deep purples) are your best bets. Avoid earth tones such as beige and olive, which can wash you out. If you’re going to commit to gray, the labor you save coloring your hair should be switched to putting on makeup, since gray hair tends to make your complexion appear dull. The best place to start? Blush. Go for shades like apricot, peach, and rose—not beigy or tawny colors. They make your skin tone look muddy next to gray hair. Most important of all: Groom your brows. Trim wayward hairs (grays tend to be wiry), and define your arches with a taupe pencil so they don’t disappear.